Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.
This is one of my favorite lines from the song Closing Time by Semisonic. Not only was this song used in my high school graduation, but it also reminds me that with every beginning, something else is ending.
This has been a key theme the past few days as my little sister picks out ‘the dress’, other dresses, flowers, decor, and all that is necessary these days for a wedding. As her life as a single comes to an end, we are looking at the new beginning with a brother-in-law and uncle entering our life.
So what is coming to an end? For those of us who are married, can you even remember what it was like before? It makes me think about what I sometimes miss from my single life. Here are a few:
- Not sharing a bathroom or closet
- Never having to choose which holidays will be with my family and which I will miss
- Any mess in the house is MY mess, not someone else’s that I am expected to clean up
- Total control of the remote and watching whatever I want, whenever I want
- Cereal for supper
These are fairly trivial when I think of all that is gained. So, even though we will now share my sister with her new family, we also get to share her new husband. And we cannot wait for this new beginning to begin.
The Life Blend 
It has been so long since I have been single so appreciated your list because it was a reminder. Also now that my children are grown and establishing their own routines I am empathetic about the choosing where to celebrate the holidays.
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I especially enjoyed that list! Cereal for supper is one that my husband and I both continued to enjoy–until we became parents, and now it seems wrong to serve cereal for supper, though sometimes I am sorely tempted! Congrats to your sister!
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Love this reflection on beginnings and endings. Life moves forward and that always means change. But change helps us grow, and what’s more exciting than growing your family with a new brother-in-law and uncle?
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I’ve been single for the past 4 years and still reflecting on all the things I can do without worrying about someone else. My list would be the things I miss about being in a marriage–(the happy things,,,)
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Thank you for sharing. I sometimes am jealous of my single friends and what I perceive is their abundant time. This is usually when I am stressed with my boys or irritated at my husband. I so often miss the best parts of our lives when I focus on what we/I don’t have. Strive to enjoy this season of your life. And choose to remember the best of your married life. There is a Carolyn Dawn Johnson song that I return to often called “I’ll Think of You That Way.” She sings about remembering the laughter and not the tears. And if you can do that, you are truly in a good place in your single life. I don’t know your situation or pretend to simplify divorce as I personally know the impacts it can have, but hope to encourage you in this different beginning you have found yourself in. Thank you again for reading and commenting.
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